Time is an incredibly precious and weird construct. Sometimes I get wrapped up in how little time we have for certain experiences. I have been so hyper-aware that we only get four years of college and have used this as a constant reminder to try new things and seek out new opportunities.
Now that I only have a few weeks left of my college career, these feelings have only intensified as I try to soak up moments with my roommates and accrue special memories around campus. The pressure I place on myself to make the most of every opportunity can at times be anxiety-inducing and exhausting, but I love getting advice from knowledgeable people about new endeavors. I consulted a few of my fellow senior friends to ask what advice they would give to younger UW students and compiled some of their guidance and wisdom.
When it comes to academics, my friend Eamon Toye suggests “Don’t be afraid to try out different classes and major paths; it feels like everyone is trying to make you decide your future at 18 years old, but as someone that changed majors junior year and is still graduating on time, just take your time to find what you like.” I spent my first two years here as an undecided major and used that time to explore possible majors while satisfying general requirements. As someone who had virtually no idea what I wanted to do, I loved this time to explore classes and concepts to narrow down specific major paths. Although it feels like a huge challenge, college is truly a time to learn and soak up as much knowledge as possible rather than fixate on specific grades, majors, or GPA. Care about your classes and your learning but never dwell on a bad grade or exam; it is a learning experience and your future is and will always be bright.
My friend, Ben Kangas advises, “There will be moments in college where you may feel stuck, whether it's with your academic endeavors or social life, but there are always opportunities for change. It's about finding different interests or individuals that bring you passion and happiness.”
By far, the most advice I received from my friends centered around friendships and involvement throughout college. Grace Luptak recommends, “Do as much as you can; play an intramural sport, join some clubs, lay in the grass by the Union. You think you’re stuck in college forever but then you blink and it’s almost over. You’ll never be upset about trying too many things!”
My good friend and fellow WASB Brigetta Hartzell offered further input as she advised, “College is a time to start fresh, you can be whoever you want. I had a friend who had never played frisbee in her life but decided to try out and made the varsity team. It was the best decision of her life. As my grandpa says, ‘Don’t even think about it, just do it!’ Encourage yourself to engage in spaces you thought were out of reach, freshman year is all about trial and error.” She goes on to explain that during difficult times, it’s never too late to reflect and make a change.
“At the same time, it's ok if you decide you don’t like where you’re at. You can remove yourself from those spaces if they are not serving you. You’re an adult! You have complete autonomy over what your life looks like now and it's important to honor your desires. Build up a community that supports you and gives you the energy to support others.”
I agree wholeheartedly with Brigetta and Grace’s wisdom. During my freshman year, I joined several organizations and spaces including Greek life, club sports, and WASB. It took time to figure out which spaces benefitted me the most and where I felt the most comfortable. Embrace the spaces that value, support, and challenge you in the best ways.
Friendships will ebb and flow throughout college. There will be times when you feel fully loved and supported but there will inevitably be times you feel alone. Regarding friendships, Ruby Ulrich says, “Some friends and relationships are meant to be temporary or only last for a certain period and it’s okay to move on.” Another friend volunteered, “Know your worth and don’t settle for any less than that. Choose friends who you look up to, and who you feel safe around. College can feel so isolating and it may seem like everyone around you has all these friends and their life is so put together, but people change, our needs change, and it’s okay if you don't feel your community at UW yet. Sometimes it takes time to feel like you have found your people. Be patient with yourself, there are so many people out there who will love and empower you.”
My friend Brooke O’Connor helps put the timeline into perspective as she adds, “Do not give up hope that your “college experience” won’t be all you wanted it to be. For me, at least, every year was completely different and I couldn't have predicted any of it from freshman year. Your social life is what you make of it, but things also will fall in place naturally, it just takes time.” On a similar note, WASB President, Jackson Walker contributes, “Wisconsin is awesome but it’s okay to not always be having the best time. Just like life, college is hard and will have its ups and downs. Ride the wave and have faith in yourself.”
On mental health, Ruby Ulrich adds, “Always prioritize your mental health over anything. You never know what other people are going through, try to be mindful, kind, and understanding.” She further offers, “Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes, everyone makes them and they will help you grow in the long run.” Self-care in college is absolutely essential, so take the time these four years to explore the best ways to take care of your physical and mental health.
To wrap up the advice from my lovely and wise senior friends, I offer a quote from Molly Phelan, All Campus Party Director; “I think the biggest reminder I would give younger UW students is that the person you are today does not have to be the person you are tomorrow. College gives you the chance to play around with what you like, who you like, and how you spend your time. I would try on as many versions of yourself as possible because you should not be the same person you were when you entered this place. People will celebrate your authenticity, I promise you.
“Also remember, nothing is that deep. That test you failed, you will still find a way to pass that class. That time you lost your credit card, you’ll get a new one. That friendship that crumbled, you will meet somebody who understands you better. All in due time. Don’t let the pitfalls consume you. Be present with your buddies. Explore the parts of Madison that are off the beaten path. Milk everything you can out of this city because before you know it, your time will be up.”
By Margo Kurth
All Campus Party Co-Chair